Letter K
Kindness & Self-Compassion
Exploring gentler ways of relating to ourselves and others, particularly during difficulty, disappointment or change.
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Frequently asked questions
What are the best books to read about kindness & self-compassion?
A good place to start is the fiction, nonfiction, and poetry suggested in this reading list. They each explore this theme differently, so you can select what you are connecting with the most.
Can reading really help with kindness & self-compassion?
Yes, although it should not be viewed as a substitute for therapy. The right book can help you articulate feelings you have struggled to explain, offer reassurance that you are not alone, and provide a new perspective. Sometimes that insight is exactly what you need; at other times, it can encourage you to seek further support.
Who curates the Kindness & Self-Compassion reading list?
Bijal Shah, a bibliotherapist, founder of Book Therapy and The Book Therapy Method and the author of Bibliotherapy: The Healing Power of Reading (Hachette, 2024). She has spent over ten years matching readers to books for all kinds of emotional and life themes, including kindness & self-compassion.
Do I need a Book Therapy membership to see the full kindness & self-compassion list?
Yes. The full Kindness & Self-Compassion reading list, with my notes on each book and the personal reading tools, lives inside the Book Therapy membership. You also get the whole A to Z of Book Prescriptions, the journalling, and writing tools and reading progress tracking.
Are these kindness & self-compassion books suitable if I've never read anything on the topic before?
Yes. The list is deliberately diverse in order to ensure there is something for everyone, whether that's a short memoir, a poem to sit with over a cup of tea, or a novel to properly disappear into. If something feels too close to what you're going through right now, you have the option to put it down. And another book on the list might be more helpful.
Related reading lists
If Kindness & Self-Compassion resonates, these companion themes from the A–Z of Book Prescriptions may meet you next.
Letter D
Dissociation
Exploring experiences of feeling disconnected from thoughts, emotions, memories, surroundings or one's sense of self.
Letter D
Dyslexia
Exploring dyslexic experiences, learning differences and the strengths and challenges of processing information differently.
Letter E
Eating Disorders
Exploring complex relationships with food, eating and body image, together with themes of recovery and self-understanding.
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Empty Nest
Exploring identity, relationships and new possibilities when children leave home and family life begins to change.
Letter I
Inner Child
Exploring how early experiences can shape adult emotions and relationships, and how we might respond with greater compassion.
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Family & Inherited Trauma
Exploring how difficult experiences, beliefs and patterns can travel through generations and influence family relationships.