Letter K
Kindness & Self-Compassion
Exploring gentler ways of relating to ourselves and others, particularly during difficulty, disappointment or change.
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Frequently asked questions
What are the best books to read about kindness & self-compassion?
A good place to start is the fiction, nonfiction, and poetry suggested in this reading list. They each explore this theme differently, so you can select what you are connecting with the most.
Can reading really help with kindness & self-compassion?
Yes, although it should not be viewed as a substitute for therapy. The right book can help you articulate feelings you have struggled to explain, offer reassurance that you are not alone, and provide a new perspective. Sometimes that insight is exactly what you need; at other times, it can encourage you to seek further support.
Who curates the Kindness & Self-Compassion reading list?
Bijal Shah, a bibliotherapist, founder of Book Therapy and The Book Therapy Method and the author of Bibliotherapy: The Healing Power of Reading (Hachette, 2024). She has spent over ten years matching readers to books for all kinds of emotional and life themes, including kindness & self-compassion.
Do I need a Book Therapy membership to see the full kindness & self-compassion list?
Yes. The full Kindness & Self-Compassion reading list, with my notes on each book and the personal reading tools, lives inside the Book Therapy membership. You also get the whole A to Z of Book Prescriptions, the journalling, and writing tools and reading progress tracking.
Are these kindness & self-compassion books suitable if I've never read anything on the topic before?
Yes. The list is deliberately diverse in order to ensure there is something for everyone, whether that's a short memoir, a poem to sit with over a cup of tea, or a novel to properly disappear into. If something feels too close to what you're going through right now, you have the option to put it down. And another book on the list might be more helpful.
Related reading lists
If Kindness & Self-Compassion resonates, these companion themes from the A–Z of Book Prescriptions may meet you next.
Letter P
Panic Attacks
Exploring sudden episodes of intense fear and their emotional impact, with supportive perspectives on understanding the experience.
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Parenting
Exploring the emotional complexities of raising children, including connection, responsibility, uncertainty and changing family relationships.
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PTSD & Trauma
Exploring the lasting emotional and psychological effects of trauma, alongside themes of safety, recovery and resilience.
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Perfectionism
Exploring high expectations, fear of mistakes and the pressure to perform, alongside more compassionate ways of defining success.
Letter Q
Queer Mental Health
Exploring mental health through LGBTQ+ and queer experiences, including identity, belonging, discrimination, relationships and community.
Letter R
Recovery & Addiction
Exploring the ongoing journey of recovery from addiction, including setbacks, relationships, identity and renewed possibility.