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Alternative Lives
For anyone haunted by the versions of themselves that didn't happen. Books on parallel lives running quietly alongside your own.
Dear reader,
For anyone haunted by the versions of themselves that didn't happen. Books on parallel lives running quietly alongside your own. If you have ever finished a book and thought, "how did they know?", that is the part of reading I care most about. This is a small collection of books about alternative lives that I keep coming back to, and that readers keep telling me made a real difference. It gathers 4 fiction titles, 1 nonfiction title, and 1 poetry title.
You will find writers like Matt Haig, Kate Atkinson, and Lionel Shriver here, each one approaching alternative lives in their own way. Some are practical and clear, some are messier and more personal, and a few simply keep you company on a hard evening. There is no right order to read them in. Start with whichever title sounds most like where you are today, and put anything down that feels too close for now.
One small note: these books are here as good company, not as a fix. They are not a replacement for therapy or medical care, but reading has been helping people make sense of themselves for a very long time, and the right book at the right moment can genuinely shift something.
Warmly,
Bijal x
Learn more about Bibliotherapy in my book, Bibliotherapy: The Healing Power of Reading.
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Frequently asked questions
What are the best books to read about alternative lives?
A good place to start is the fiction, nonfiction, and poetry suggested in this reading list. They each explore this theme differently, so you can select what you are connecting with the most.
Can reading really help with alternative lives?
Yes, although it should not be viewed as a substitute for therapy. The right book can help you articulate feelings you have struggled to explain, offer reassurance that you are not alone, and provide a new perspective. Sometimes that insight is exactly what you need; at other times, it can encourage you to seek further support.
Who curates the Alternative Lives reading list?
Bijal Shah, a bibliotherapist, founder of Book Therapy and The Book Therapy Method and the author of Bibliotherapy: The Healing Power of Reading (Hachette, 2024). She has spent over ten years matching readers to books for all kinds of emotional and life themes, including alternative lives.
Do I need a Book Therapy membership to see the full alternative lives list?
Yes. The full Alternative Lives reading list, with my notes on each book, the covers and the personal reading tools, lives inside the Book Therapy membership. You also get the whole A to Z of Book Prescriptions, the journalling, and writing tools and reading progress tracking.
Are these alternative lives books suitable if I've never read anything on the topic before?
Yes. The list is deliberately diverse in order to ensure there is something for everyone, whether that's a short memoir, a poem to sit with over a cup of tea, or a novel to properly disappear into. If something feels too close to what you're going through right now, you have the option to put it down. And another book on the list might be more helpful.
Related reading lists
If Alternative Lives resonates, these companion themes from the A–Z of Book Prescriptions may meet you next.
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For the ancient, wordless fear that people leave. Books on rebuilding trust from the bottom of the well.